Thursday, July 09, 2009

Travel Log -- Day 3

We made it safely to my aunt and uncle's house last night.

The morning started yesterday with a visit to the Marshall University memorial for those that died in the 1970 plane crash. It is a beautiful campus and was an unexpected stop at the beginning of our day.

West Virginia is gorgeous! Our drive was breathtaking. I am not used to so many trees. It brings back memories from the Massachusetts days, but it is more mountainous here. I will upload some of my pictures later, but they are on my computer, and it doesn't have internet yet. For now, my brother David has agreed to let me post some of his.

After West Virginia came Maryland. That is were we had the best view of the mountains; we stopped at a rest stop up in the hills with a view of the highway far below, a lake, etc. Good times.

Our drive was more difficult when we got closer to D.C. and there were unexpected challenges, but we arrived safe and sound in Virginia to have dinner with my aunt, her mother-in law, and my grandmother. It is so wonderful to be with my grandma again, and we are enjoying being with my Aunt Cindy and Uncle Pat. We talked late into the night about our plans this week.

So, that was yesterday. We have a full day planned today with more family, food, and fun!

Tuesday, July 07, 2009

Travel Log -- Day 2

We started in Missouri this morning, spent seven minutes in Illinois, and drove for hours and hours in Kentucky this afternoon. The evening found us just over the border in West Virginia. What a day! To my knowledge, I have never been in West Virginia before, so this is one more state to cross off my list (if I had one, anyway).

It was good to see Kentucky again. We drove to the north and south of Kentucky last year -- completely avoiding the state itself -- so the last time I was here was on our move down to Oklahoma almost 11 years ago. That trip was not pleasant, so Kentucky needed another chance. It is beautiful, and we enjoyed it wholeheartedly this time around! I loved the hills, trees, small towns, charming homes, horse barns, etc. There really are a lot of nice places in this country.

We found a colorful town to spend the night, and I enjoyed a delicious cheeseburger for dinner. We will be with family tomorrow night!

Monday, July 06, 2009

Travel Log -- Day 1

My cousin is getting married this week, so my family left home today to start our trek to Virginia. We made it as far as south central Missouri today. The highlights of our day included the Springfield-Greene County Library in Springfield, Missouri and the Laura Ingalls Wilder Historic Home and Museum. The library was a last minute decision made by a genealogy hungry family historian, so I looked for cemetery records and obituaries while the rest of the family headed to lunch. It was more than worth it! I found obituaries for my great, great, great grandparents Dr. William Gale Gray and Caroline McCluer Gray. Also, I found information on three of their young sons that I didn't know about before.

Willie Gray died on 31 July 1870 at the age of 2 months and 11 days.

Thaddius L. Gray died on 20 November 1870 at the age of 3 years, 4 months and 27 days.

Loneas M. Gray died on 18 April 1864 at 3 years, 4 months and 27 days.

The Little House books remain some of my childhood favorites. I remember my mother reading them to us over over hot oatmeal lunches, and I reread them with much enjoyment as I grew older. It was a blessing to see the homes where Laura Ingalls Wilder wrote her books. My favorite parts included the tiny kitchen, the desks where she wrote her books, and Pa's fiddle.



One day down! Many more to go!

Friday, June 26, 2009

A Friend

What do friends do together? I don’t know about you, but when I was 10 years old my best friend and I ran races, climbed trees, spent hours sitting together, and had all sorts of adventures exploring the field and creek behind my house.

You may have similar memories, but in my case, my best friend was a cat. She was there for me when I needed companionship, a friend, and a creature to love and care for. I was there for her when she needed a home, food, protection, and love.

It has been 3 years today since Empress died, and I still think back with the fondest memories of her years with me. She was the sweetest and the best. As some of you know, I have been writing a few of my childhood memories lately - with a special emphasis on my family's pets. The post (or posts) about Empress are in progress right now, but I wanted to commemorate today with something short and happy.

One brief memory... I remember back when she was an outdoor cat only. Empress and I had an unspoken agreement with each other. If I called her, she came. If she called me, I came. Well that was fine during normal daytime hours, but what about when she is an early riser, and I want to stay in bed? Empress would come to my window, climb on the screen, and make such a meowing racket that I could not sleep! She wouldn't stop! So, having tried the pillow over the head option with no success, I was left to grab my blanket and pillow, go out the back door and curl up on the deck to sleep. Empress, happy to have achieved her goal, climbed on top of me and rested contentedly until I was ready to get up for the day. Let's just say we were both overjoyed when she was finally allowed in the house.

I thought this was supposed to be a happy memory. Since when has happy meant being pulled from my bed when I was too tired to think straight only to sleep on the porch? Well, I was happy -- happy to have Empress.

Thursday, June 18, 2009

The Garage

My family rented an old house in Franklin, MA when I was young. Property taxes are high up there, so a good eyesore can help keep things reasonable. Our house’s eyesore was a rickety, worn out garage. Rickety went to new heights with this structure; at least, that is what I was told. The entire neighborhood was carved out of a hill, so the basement of the house had a door into the backyard, there was a cliff on both sides of the house (our own personal rock-climbing wall), and a garage built on very old stilts.

As renters, there was nothing we could do about the garage, so my parents taught us not to touch the old thing. I got the impression as a small child that the whole thing would tip over or crumble if I even put a finger on it.

I obeyed for a time. I looked at the garage, got close to the garage, and looked through the windows of the garage (it was full of junk), but I did not touch the garage. I just knew that if I laid one finger on that building, it would come tumbling down. I wasn’t too concerned about the garage itself, but if the garage fell down, Mom and Dad would find out I touched it. There would be bad trouble if that happened.

At some point, an unneeded measure of bravery rose up in me. After looking at the garage long enough, I gave in to temptation. No one was in sight when I reached out my hand and gently poked the garage with one finger. Nothing happened. I did it again. Nothing. I checked again to make sure no one was watching and placed my entire hand on the rough brown siding of the garage.

Fear diminished, the neighborhood kids and I eventually learned how to climb in the windows of the garage, although we never ventured very far in – we needed a quick escape route in case someone came near, and we were still a little nervous about toppling the garage.

Given more time, we climbed underneath the garage among the stilts. There were piles of old lumber under there, and we collected it for use in “building” a club house. We yanked and pulled on those boards. Sometimes, we weren’t sure if we were pulling on the foundation or the scrap! There were old bottles, rusted nails, spiders, mice, splintered ends, and who knows what else under there… There was good reason to honor my parents and stay far away from that garage.

1 John 1:5b--6 says, “God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth.”

I remember that garage well despite the fact that nothing disastrous ever happened in or around it. How often do we push little boundaries – that turn into big boundaries – and are protected by a mercy we don’t deserve? Looking back, I call my adventures around that garage what it was: sin. I knew it was wrong at the time, and I still know it was wrong. I am thankful we were kept safe. Anything could have happened under that garage. Someone could have been badly hurt – or killed. Frankly, I didn’t deserve safety, but isn’t that what grace is about?

We do stupid things in this life. All sin is stupid, because it is a rebellion against the all Holy God. It doesn’t matter if no one gets hurt. It doesn’t matter if the garage stays upright. It doesn’t matter if the parents never find out. What matters is that God’s law has been broken. A crime has been committed against the holiness of God and we are in desperate need of saving. Little or large, every sin is equally worth the judgment of God.

What amazing grace God offers us in Jesus Christ! He took the punishment for me! I could have died under that rickety garage. Worse, I could have made it out safe and sound, lived a long life, and died a natural death only to suffer eternal separation from God in hell.

Thanks be to God for the gift of grace that is mine through faith in Jesus Christ.

“The blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin. If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." 1 John 1:7b--9

I thank Him for saving me, giving me a second chance (and many more), and giving me a desire to do His will and obey His law. I still don’t obey Him perfectly, but everyday is a new day to live for Him and thank Him for His undeserved grace.

Friday, June 12, 2009

Micah

The search was on for a new bird after Popeye flew away. We wanted a friendlier and younger bird than its predecessor, and Mom found the perfect place to find such a pet. It was a little shop that specialized in reptiles and handfed birds. During this critical adoption process we were taught three important truths.

1. Cats are evil.
2. Birds are the true royalty of the animal kingdom.
3. Mankind’s main purpose in life is to serve, love, and protect said bird.

We didn’t learn these lessons perfectly, but that was not the pet shop’s fault. After all, this was a New England pet shop, and these were typical New Englanders – they spoke their minds truthfully and often.

The birds ruled the roost at this pet store; they were pampered and adored. We were taught that handfed birds make better pets, and that normal birdfeed is not acceptable. Potential customers were screened through an intense interrogation process; this pet shop was not about to sell their birds to just anyone!

The people at the pet shop found out quickly what a pet lover my mother is, so everything was going great – until they arrived at the crucial question: “Do you have a cat?”

“Yes, we do.” My mom answered.

That was almost the end of the transaction. They did not sell their birds into cat-owning homes.

“But our cat isn’t a real cat,” my mom assured them. “Charity is a Persian, and she wouldn’t harm a bird. In fact, we came home once to find the bird cage open. Our old bird, Popeye, was standing at the end of the door, and Charity was nearby on a chair. Charity would never hurt a bird!”

“Well, in that case, I guess it would be all right.” They responded reluctantly.

The newest brood of cockatiels was too young to be adopted yet, so we couldn’t bring our baby bird home right away. We didn’t know if our bird was a girl or a boy yet either. We wanted a male, because they are prettier and more outgoing, but we didn’t have a choice if we wanted to take home a young and impressionable bird. We would have to wait and see if the bright yellow we remembered from Popeye would show up in our new bird’s face and indicate we had chosen a male.

Finally, our cockatiel came home. Of course, it had a nice collection of toys and trinkets for its cage, and we bought a good amount of food too (more on its diet later).

Dad had the privilege of naming it, but it remained nameless until its gender was determined. We hovered around the cage and took turns holding it. Any change in its facial feathers was scrutinized as we waited. We wanted it to have a name!

Finally, we saw evidence of yellow. The cockatiel continued to brighten. We had a boy! Dad named him Micah after the Old Testament prophet. He said that like the prophet, our bird was loud! Dad used the opportunity to teach us more scripture by posting a Bible verse from the book of Micah on the cage.

I was in my room looking out the window one day and saw my mom talking to the neighbor across the street. This neighbor was the big pet person on the street. I remember going to her house to watch her “bunny” rabbit, pet her cat, and hear her large family of birds whistle and talk.

From my perch in the window I could pick up bits and pieces of my mom’s conversation. What were they saying? Both ladies were excited, and I heard the word “baby” once or twice. Could it be? I really wanted a baby sister. Even a baby brother would do – although I already had one of those. Was it possible the long awaited fourth child was on its way? If there was a baby coming, when would it be here? I knew babies took 9 months, so I counted through the months in my head.

But why would Mom tell the neighbor before she told us? I was a little offended. Then again, I couldn’t be sure if a baby was coming at all. I decided to be extra watchful of my mom and look for symptoms of pregnancy. Of course, I wasn’t sure what the “symptoms” were like besides being tired a lot and having a big belly – and I wasn’t about to ask!

Several days went on without any “big news” from my parents, and I eventually gave up any hopes of having a baby sister. Only years later did I realize that the “baby” my mother spoke of was our own little baby cockatiel Micah!

Micah had a special diet. Birdseed wasn’t good enough for the handfed tweedy from the bird and reptile store. They sold a mix of assorted beans uniquely formulated for maximum bird health. There was a specific percentage of this bean and that. It needed to be cooked over the stove in large batches, divided, and frozen in ice trays stored in the freezer. Meal time came twice a day. Mom would pop a bean cube out of the tray and warm it up in the microwave. It couldn’t be too hot or cold for Micah. We were bird people – just not as strange as the people at the pet shop!

Micah is a friendly bird, and we all loved him. I liked to exercise him with what I thought of as an endless staircase. I would hold him on one finger and present my other hand at the level of his chest. He stepped up, and I did the same with my other hand – alternating him back and forth until we both bored of the game.

As much as we all liked Micah, it was my mom who spent the most time with him. She kept him close to her on her shoulder and kept him happy by petting, cuddling, kissing, and hand feeding her bird – okay, so maybe she was as bad as the pet store people – but then her first job out of high school had been at a pet store. What else could we expect? She wanted him to be well socialized and be good with people. Well, he was good with people, but he was at his best with her. To this day he lets her pet and play with him like no one else. She grabs him by the neck and plays rough with him, cuddles his little face, whistles with him, etc. In fact, Micah and my mom have so much fun with each other that Micah laughs like her! My mom has a certain joyful laugh that is very distinctive, and Micah picked up on it. If he thinks something is funny – or can just sense that my mom thinks something is funny – he starts laughing – and that causes her to laugh even more!

We taught him several phrases to say like, “I’m a good birdie!” and “I’m a pretty bird!” Eventually, they started to run together. Now, he will spout, “I’m a pretty good birdie!” It was my dad’s idea to teach him the theme song from The Andy Griffith Show. My mom and dad both knew it well from their old TV days, and soon, it was the most popular melody in the house. Susanna, David, and I didn’t know it as well, and I am sure Micah picked up some of his confusion from us. He never quite got it, but it is still one of his favorite sounds. He tries to do it, but I wouldn’t count on a stranger recognizing it. He does best when one of us is whistling, and he can just chirp in with whatever notes he can. It excites him all right!

My family moved from Massachusetts to Oklahoma the year after Micah joined the family. It didn’t have an impact on his happiness at all. He still had Mom; what was there to worry about? The move did affect him in one crucial way however: his diet – and that brings me back to the pet shop.

My mom brought Micah in to visit his old friends at the store once. He was happy to see them and chirped away, but they were less than impressed. “Is that his travel cage?” they asked. Mom had carried him in the only cage he had. They would have sold us a more ample cage on the spot, but Mom declined. Their cages would take up a lot of room, and we couldn’t afford the space or the price tag. They couldn’t see how Micah could be happy in his “tiny” cage. We knew he was more than content, and Mom settled them down by assuring them that he spent a lot of time outside his cage.

We made one last trip to the pet shop before leaving New England. Mom bought a large quantity of beans. She needed to stock up on feed: who knows when she would be able to find more? The pet shop people wondered what was up, but Mom was not about to tell. What would they have done if they found out their “baby” was going on a four day car trip? That would not be pretty!

Micah made the trip just fine, and his beans lasted a long while too. Eventually, they ran out, and Mom had to find a new food supplier. She walked into the Oklahoma bird store and explained her predicament and need for the bean assortment. With a true Oklahoma accent that was refreshing in more ways than one, he told her, “Ma’am, birds eat seeds in the wild, and that’s what we sell here.” That was argument enough for my mother. She bought her bird seed, and both Micah and she adjusted to the easier and cheaper diet quite well. Who was to know? We were free from New England!

The two stores did have one thing in common, however. Cats were still evil.

Micah has brought joy to countless children over the years. He fascinated the kids my mom babysat, our young friends, the neighbors next door, and my cousin Michael (shown on right). Micah is both fun and intimidating, so it is amusing to watch the small children battle their conflicting urges: fright accompanied by a strong desire to touch. Poor Micah has dealt with fingers poked in his cage, loud laughter and tears – even being dropped in a bizarre attempt to see him fly.

Now, 11 years after Micah first came to our home, he still chirps away happily in his cage – the same one the pet store in Massachusetts despised. Micah still begs for food when we sit at the table for meals, and Mom still gets up from her place to care for him. He can be shrill and annoying or happy and entertaining. It is true Micah still gets banished every once in a while when the noise becomes too great. He takes a “vacation” to the back porch or upstairs bedroom, but Micah doesn’t mind a bit.

Even now, as I’m writing this in my room I can hear him chirping excitedly downstairs. It makes me glad I am not trying to concentrate down there. I might have to say, “Micah! Are you a pretty good birdie? Be quiet!”

Monday, June 08, 2009

Let the Weak Say...

Onward and upward. Sometimes, you just have to keep going. That is me today. My yesterday was long, and I didn't sleep well last night. A phone rang behind my ear after midnight, and it woke me up. It was an earlier morning than usual for me too. Today went well, but I admit, I'm writing this now to keep from falling asleep.

My Principles of Management CLEP was this morning at 7:00, so that means I left the house at 6:30. I passed the exam, and I am moving on to both Marketing and College Mathematics now. I am excited, but I would be even more excited if I wasn't so tired.

My phone consultation with my CollegePlus! coach was at 10:00, so it felt like a full day had passed already by the time lunch came. The day was far from over, however. Work started at 1:00.

My mom was sitting at the table reading her Bible while I made my sandwich. She knew I was tired and said, "Here's a verse about being weak." She began to read from Joel 3:10.

Beat your plowshares into swords,
and your pruning hooks into spears;

let the weak say, “I am a warrior.”

I couldn't help but paraphrase...

Let the weak say,
"I am a library clerk!"

And again,

"Let the weak say,
"I am a student!"

Friday, May 29, 2009

A Day at the Park

I do enjoy this time of year. Fall may still be my favorite, but I don’t know. After seeing winter come and go there is something extra special about lush green trees, shade, flowers, and warm weather. I went to the park three days in a row this week – once with my sister, the next day with a friend, and the third day with my brother and cousin. Long walks in May are the best, and swinging is fun at any age! It brings back fond memories of many other trips to the park throughout my life.

The writing bug has caught me and I feel like writing about something or anything, but I don’t have much time right now. Biology is the subject of the month, and it has been most difficult. Please pray for me this Monday! I am taking the exam that morning.

Before I put the computer away for the night, however, I feel like sharing a few brief park memories to commemorate the lovely Oklahoma weather I’ve enjoyed so much lately. Here goes!

1. I remember Mom swinging me at our park when I was small. I didn’t know how to swing myself. A big boy came up, and mom suggested in front of him that I ask him to teach me. I was too shy and embarrassed and kept quiet.

2. We had a tall metal slide at our park way out by itself quite a distance from the new equipment. It was the old kind that isn’t made any more. I don’t think it met current safety regulations. It was an adventure! We would race each other to the slide, climb the tall ladder to the top, and slide down to the bottom before racing around again to do it all over again. We had lots of fun doing this, but we had to be careful in the summer. The metal burned at the bottom of the slide!

3. There was a fun park that was further away from the house, so Mom drove us there. We called it the “rope park” because it used red rope everywhere on the park equipment. The main feature was a gigantic thing made from the red rope that towered above the sand. I think it was in a dome shape, and we could climb all through it and on top of it. It was a big deal to jump off it, and I thought I was tough because I could jump from a higher place than my big sister. Well, that was fine until two older boys came and jumped from the very top! Not to be outdone, I thought about it and almost jumped several times before I took the leap. It was scary and exciting! I did it again and again until it was no big deal.

4. I was scared silly about poison ivy as a child. I’ve never had it, but that only made it worse. My aunt is terribly allergic to it, and I remember horror stories about when she had it. I was told that once you caught poison ivy, it would be even easier to get it from then on. My grandma had poison ivy in the woods by her house, and we were warned about getting too close. This made me imagine that the plant could almost jump at you and catch you unawares. I had a list of all the places I suspected poison ivy, and I ranked each place by how easy it would be to catch it there. I knew the plant had three leaves, but I was too scared to even say the words poison ivy or ask what it looked like for sure. There was a teeny tiny place under a bush at the park that made the list. It was in my top five, but to this day I don’t know if it was really the dreaded plant or not. I have tons of poison ivy stories, but these may need to wait for another time.

5. There is one funny story about the red rope park that I could tell. It is one of my favorite park stories, but again, this one is too long and must wait to be told. Let’s just say it involves my love of storytelling and the time I duped my sister into believing we had inherited the best tree house on the planet. More on this later…

6. Another rope park memory includes the time I was playing tag. I was about to be caught as I ran along the top of the playground equipment. Reaching a dead end, I jumped, grabbing more of that bright red rope, and slid to the ground in desperation. I am not sure I had ever had a blister before that day, but my hands were covered with them soon enough. I ran to mom with uncontrollable tears. It hurt worse than anything, and nothing made it better. There was no more fun for me that day!

7. Then again, there are all the times I have sat leisurely on a swing talking to my friends or family and just had a good time. Hot, windy, or cold, I’ve probably spent a day (or at least a few minutes) like that at the park.

That is all for now! Many more park stories come to mind, so I may do this again. I need to get plenty of rest tonight. Tomorrow is a big study day!

~written late Thursday night~
~published in the first hour of Friday~

Sunday, May 10, 2009

Mother

A list of completely random things I love about my mother.

I love my mother because…

1… she gave me a love for God’s Word.
2… she listens to me.
3… she understands me better than I think she does.
4… she made me carrot juice even when I didn't like it.
5… she read to me aloud and taught me to read to her.
6… she is more willing to pray than complain.
7… she is funny and laughs at her own jokes.
8… she took me to the park and played with me.
9… she is modest.
10… she is longsuffering.
11… she makes colorful and creative cards and photo albums.
12… she takes few things seriously.
13… she takes the important things very seriously.
14… she makes the best macaroni and cheese.
15… she drives me to work – cheerfully.
16… she disciplined me as a child, but she did it lovingly.
17… she gives great hugs.
18… she doesn't want me to grow up too quickly.
19… she expects me to be responsible.
20… she is my friend, and she always will be.

Blast from the past! This is a wonderful photo of several mothers in my family. This shows my mother and her sister, their mother, their mother's mother, and their mother's mother's mother-in-law!

And just in case you didn't follow that -- they are listed here from left to right.

my grandmother
Jeanette
Mother to 2

my great grandmother
Irene Beatrice Smith Beam
1910 -- 1998
Mother to 5

my aunt
Cindy
Mother to 2

my great, great grandmother
Anna Marie Larsen Beem
1887 -- 1972
Mother to 7

my mother
Christina
Mother to 3

Friday, April 17, 2009

Chocolate Cake (both of them)

My family has had an abundance of chocolate cake over the last few months. My Dad made a delicious chocolate cake for Valentine's Day that was perfect, so I still had fond chocolate memories when his birthday rolled around. All chocolate cake recipes are created equal (right?) so I chose a different recipe -- from the Food Network. To top it all off, it was an Emeril Lagasse Food Network recipe. It had to be good, right?

Well, my family said it was: they loved it. I had my doubts about it, however. Chocolate bread came to mind as did the words bland, tasteless, and "below par." I kept my concerns to myself though. One good rule for a cook might be (and I just made this up), don't talk your eaters into disliking your food.

I must say that the cream cheese chocolate frosting was excellent, and I would have been happy to just eat the frosting for dessert and skip the cake altogether. Time did improve the cake some; I actually managed to enjoy the leftovers the next day.

My mom's birthday follows my dad's by exactly two weeks, so I was eager to redeem myself in the cake baking realm. I asked my mom what kind of cake she wanted; she wanted chocolate. "Are you sure?" I thought. I asked her again the next day just to be sure. Yes, she definitely wanted chocolate.

Okay, I decided to do it, but I wanted the kind of chocolate cake I remembered from February. The key? Use the same recipe that received such rave reviews for my dad a few months ago. I had him find the recipe for me, and I followed the directions impeccably.

The results? Scharffen Berger wins the cake! It turned out just the way I wanted it too. It had the rich chocolate flavor that was so lacking in the other recipe. I will definitely make this one again!








Happy Birthday, Dad and Mom!